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I got tired of the non-stop DJT outrage years ago. I cannot understand why people continue to think that losing your mind over him counts as a political opinion or strategy. It reminds me a lot of the cases I listened to as I sat in family court during my custody battle—it was never about the kids (America), it was always about revenge (feeling morally superior). The Left isn’t interested in the policy reasons why people vote for him, they just want to everyone to know that their ex is an a$$hole and they’re taking the kids (America).

I desperately wish for this civil war to end. I don’t know how or when that happens. It always gives me hope when I read stuff like this—you see it, too.

I, too, was a Left-wing activist. I actually spent quite a bit of time working on various political campaigns, canvassing, etc. None of my actual work “making the world a better place” seems to matter now that I’m a moderate/Independent (fallen liberal?). People who only ever posted an IG square or voted in gubernatorial elections are somehow holier than me! Okay.

Mallory, what your grandma hoped you would be, you are. She is blinded and can’t see it, but it’s still true. This country desperately needs more sane, thoughtful voices like yours. In a sea of propaganda, hatred, and antisemitism, it’s more needed than ever.

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This analogy is incredible. And thank you so much for those kind words - felt that deep in my soul and can't tell you how much it means to me <3

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That’s a perfect analogy.

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I love your work! It’s balanced and passionate (but not hysterical) and I can’t even tell you how rare this is! Also, funny as hell 🤩.

My husband and I were just talking about this.

Both of us were yellow dog Democrats until this election (my husband’s family are longtime southerners with occasional Democrat politicians in their history). We are both voting for Trump mainly because the progressive driver of the Democratic Party has left tire tracks over our Zionist backs. Before that, I suffered through an odious bout of TDS - even my Soviet childhood didn’t inoculate me against ideological capture

In the families that have been ripped apart by politics - the seams were already frayed by secrets and dysfunction. Politics are a much safer crowbar than grandad’s grabby ways or mom’s narcissism or that closet bursting with pulverized skeletons. It’s the acceptable estrangement, the scapegoat estrangement. We’ll probably be the official racist traitor pariahs at Thanksgiving, even though my husband and I avoid political prompts, and that’s ok.

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Awwww thank you so much <3 you are so right; that was incredibly wisely and beautifully said. Really appreciate you

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That’s so kind. Thank you.

Also, I’m so sorry about your grandma’s treatment of you. Hopefully, she’ll come around and watch a hallmark movie or some shit, about love not being conditional on political agreement.

You contribute plenty. Writing about politics with wit and sanity is miraculous, especially in this volcano of toxic shit, of an election.

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💙💙💙💙💙💙💙

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If you were my relatives, you wouldn’t be coming to my holiday dinners. Trumpers are horrible people. Full stop.

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I’ll cry myself to sleep and tear out my hair. Possibly go to therapy. Might never recover. Thank you random internet troll for sharing your brilliance with me. Full stop?? Thx boomer

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Lmaoooo miss Heaux blocked me. Whatever will I do without Heaux’s pork rind and velveeta pie this holiday season? 🗑️🐷

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🤣🤣🤣 dying. We’ll cry together. We could have basked in her greatness. Oh the loss!

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It's Teheux, and you're being a typical Trumper by assuming we eat such shit in my house -- shows what you think of the working class. I cook everything from scratch and mostly vegan.

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Of course you are Vegan! Let me guess. You won’t eat an egg (unfertilized chicken menstruation) because if it has a Mother or a face it is sacred, but you are adamantly pro abortion. Cuz fetuses don’t have mothers or faces?

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Nope. My husband is a vegetarian who dislikes cheese. I do eat meat. I just don't cook it very often since he doesn't eat it -- easier to cook meat-free and cheese-free foods we both like.

What other crazy-ass assumptions would you like to jump to based on your own hateful little Trumper heart and zero facts?

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Not a Boomer, actually. And I don't care how you feel about it. And I am in no way a troll.

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The heaux you are big boomer energy. Maybe don’t be piggishly ignorant and people will be nicer to you. Also lmao it’s not “what I think of the working class” girliepops, it’s your vibeys ✨ speaking of working class, why don’t you work on getting some class instead of blocking people who challenge you in any way. Don’t blame your intellectual laziness on being working class, plenty of hard working people across the political spectrum manage to be less dense than you.

Enjoy your “from scratch vegan” humble pie, sweatie!

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Do you actually think you're a decent person? Or clever?

See, one of the things that shows what you are is deliberately butchering someone's name when it's literally right there in front of you -- and then accusing the person you're being so petty to of being the one who doesn't have any class. But like I said, Trumpers are bad people. You proved my point.

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Awfully limited memory you’ve got there, friend. A classic case of “can dish it but can’t take it,” aka cowardly.

You come to MY article, in which I openly express STRONG disregard for Donald Trump, and plead for some basic level of understanding beyond a binary, reactionary, hateful assumption of character AND share my own vulnerable personal story— and you tell me all Trump supporters and presumably I myself (as indicated by your preemptive block) are awful people? And weaponize my painful story about my grandmother to employ what I’m sure your heaux self thought was a clever insult by saying you would also banish me from your family table? Or did you not read far enough to understand what a cruel insult that is? ALL ON OCTOBER 7th!

So, my little self-victimizing Nazi friend. I might normally have more compassion for someone with your… vibes. But today, all I can say is, look in the mirror 🗑️🗑️🗑️ and also, eat [from scratch vegan] shit

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Is untrickled code for nefarious subversive maoist revolutionary leftist irrational non-objective non-thinking hysterical angry malevolent psychic vampire toxic projectionary energy?

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I don't even approach the subject of politics with most of my family. The most shocking to me is that we're all Israeli and Harris has already brought several pro-arab and pro-iranian advisors but they still are voting for her. It's some sort of insanity but the msm drills it into them daily. Great article.

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All of this. It's messed up people ththough trumps assassination atteattempts were staged or worse yet they failed and I don't like trump but agree w him on some policy's for sure on iran and I don't think america will turn into a hellscape if he wins, america will survive. I'm sorry about your grandma sucks family and friendship are destroyed over one man

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thank you!!! and yes it's pretty wild, conspiracy theories are so accessible when they corroborate people's hatred

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And the far left are basically the progressive version of Qanon

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When did I exempt them? It didn't turn into a hellscape four years ago (and the creepy horrors of January 6th don't count if the countless anti-America, antisemitic riots and encampments over the past year don't count), but if it does, I'll be the first to say I was wrong, and to back into the streets and to organize, just as I did from 2016-2020. You have my word, Henry!

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Well done. I’m glad you’re seeing the truth. The only way we can move the needle is if partisans, left and right, recognize the need to compromise. The irrational hatred is so tiresome and always prevalent. A few comments support this. I’m glad they’re unfollowing, I don’t want to read from them either. I’m no fan of DJT. DJT’s personality is terribly flawed, however, no doubt he’s been much better for the Jews and Israel. He also had Iran on its heels. Most of criticism of him is inaccurate especially the threat to democracy. The left today is closer to the Jacobins than the Kennedy democrats I grew up with. In addition, the Obama/Biden/ Harris Administration is rife with Iranian spies. This is irrefutable. The border crisis is also an epic failure.

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I am sorry this happened to you with your grandmother. I am estranged by the vast majority of my blood relatives and I have to tell you, I am better off this way. My grandmother also rejected me after decades of working hard to have a relationship with her simply because I did not intervene between my mother and her when they had an argument. If their love is conditional then it is not really love.

The fact that families are pulling themselves apart over politics shows simply how stupid the vast majority of people happen to be. My husband's family has decided that family is more important and they won't allow politics to be discussed when everyone gets together.

I hope that in your world you are happy and healthy and go live your life how it makes you happy. You have no obligation to please anyone other than yourself. :)

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thank you for sharing this <3 <3 <3

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You're welocme.

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"If their love is conditional it's not really love." ❤️

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My life will continue to be enriched by family and friends, no matter who ascends to the Presidency. I’m not a fan of either; but will vote policy and results over personality.

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In my own case, I’ve discovered that some of my favorite substack friends are people with whom I disagree about Trump but have bonded over the “left” bias against Israel. They’ve provided a model for me of how to be respectful, even loving friends despite major political differences.

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🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌

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Nice 😊

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I've said this to you before and I'll say it again: this is without a doubt the most confusing election season I've ever witnessed. I thought that Democrats might have learned from the failures of 2016 ("baskets of deplorables"), but that does not appear to be the case. Throw in the explosion of antisemitism that we've witnessed in the last year, and you have the recipe for a clusterfuck. I'm still as much of a Democrat as I've always been. I don't want Trump as POTUS again. But whenever I bring up that I think that this election could very much go either way (because I refuse to be on the "Hillary can't possibly lose train" that I hopped on then), other Democrats dismiss it ("Harris won't be indicted by the feds like Hillary was a month before the election, she's so dynamic, Taylor Swift endorsed her," etc.). I know someone who thinks that Harris is going to win by a landslide. I honestly do not even know what to say.

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I am sorry that this has happened to you. No matter what the reason, to be outcast like this from a family is extremely hurtful and frankly unnecessary.

Secondly, kudos to you for describing and being open about how your views have changed and how you have evolved seeing things in a different light.

It’s fair to be scared, there’s no cohesion anymore - as you noted people can flip effortlessly between loving QAnon and hating Republicans \ Trump. It’s almost impossible to find allegiances; soft, balanced and multi-faceted conversation. (I recently tried reading Charles Eisenstein as I used to like him in the past and gave up with his hyperbole of ‘not taking sides’ while relentlessly ultimately bashing Israel with every ounce of his half-Jewishness. Naomi Klein makes me equally sick)

To a large extent I blame social media. It’s become an opinionated hate fest, in which echo chambers are created, nurtured and turned into walled silos of heroic indestructible opinion towers, where the dopamine of LIKES and finally belonging to a crowd has surpassed critical thinking, nuance, and holding oneself to account of higher principles. This is true for every so called investigative journalist posting as well as every” truther”.

It is a 360-degree problem. I have noticed every time I post sth remotely critical of Israel, the likes go down and I know I have hit a nerve (despite considering myself staunchly pro Israel). Shadow revelations no matter on which side are unwelcome.

Social Media has essentially obliterated the ability to say I don’t know, I am sorry, I am still figuring this out, I think I was wrong and I have since learnt that… We are in the midst of a mighty global shadow process, where endless projections are fired off without being pulled back, worked on and integrated. And everyone believes that they are exempt, even Mister Kumbaya Charles Eisenstein, ofc the intellectually unchallenged Naomi Klein, your grandma, the neighbour and who have you. Accountability for projection and shadow integration are now key to maintain sanity and to step out of a war energy that is not just raging in the Ukraine or Middle East. It rages in all of us and will ultimately consume us. Holding an entire Arab collective firmly accountable for centuries of unquestioned externalization, medieval beliefs with contempt for humanity, women and animals, is absolutely paramount. This works only if we are prepared to do our work as well not to give them openings through which they can attack.

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So very true, thank you for this comment. And OOF Naomi Klein 😵‍💫😵‍💫😵‍💫😵‍💫

But yes, nuance and dialogue over dopamine hits on “likes” ftw 🙌

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I was raised hard left, Canadian style, which is way to the left of Bernie. I lobbied our NDP government (Commie left) in BC on a (stupid) project I was pushing for. I met every politician in government at the time. This was 1972. The left were to a person scumbags. Three hinted strongly for a bribe. The business party were dismissive of my proposal, said it was dumb, but ‘go for it, if that is what you want’. I was offended. This experience changed me and I began to move right. Which took a bit of time. So I have been conservative or tending for 50 years about. This divide has been around well before social media. I have been openly insulted 100s of times by ‘nice’ lefties. Nasty women. The claws come out really easily. You see it on social media. I have experienced it for decades. As have many others. I have a good friend who was a National and International reporter. Also left, who dug deep and swung right over time. Nice leftie middle class women living in her vegan, artist, yoga town have spat on her at the supermarket. Many have told her they would like to see her die.

This is not new. And it isn’t ‘both sides’.

For the record, our right is not like US right. Our religious political crowd is left - as in ‘Jesus was a Socialist, obviously’. It is pretty much exclusively economic right. Balance your budgets!! With a hint of libertarianism tossed in from some.

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This is very thorough and resonates so much. I’m really sorry about your grandmother cutting ties over something that should not overshadow loving relationships with family. That friend of yours though sounds A+. I don’t know if this is a rift that can be mended, but you can hold your head high knowing that you are able to see clearly through the garbage.

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Appreciate you 💙🫶

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Ouch, Mallory, I'm a boomer and get news from AllSides. I read the right-and-center articles but can't force myself to read the liberal twaddle. Anyway, can you please say most boomers in the future and not lump me in with the idiots?

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Donna Brazile screaming match today was a representation of the total degradation of any form of civilized discourse. You don’t have to agree with what your opponent says but have some decency of listening without talking over and screaming. Your grandma throwing you under the bus seems to have good “role models,” though she seems to go beyond this screaming to disowning. Sad reflection on our lost ability to be respectful, tolerant, and allowing for a true exchange of opinions.

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You know how you see TDS? Canadians lose it over Trump. But they don’t live here and they can’t vote here. POTUS affects their lives but only indirectly. They say some of the craziest things. And online are the loudest voices personally invested in whether he’s in office.

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I feel ya, especially on being a former progressive activist who ran with AnCom folks.

An avowed communist I check in on now and then for entertainment value pointed out in 2015 that the southern populist Huey Long was a far better comparison for Trump than any of the WWII Axis leaders. I keep coming back to that.

And yes, I have seen even the few friends who didn't become Hamas apologists after 10/7 spout some wild BlueAnon takes re: the two assassination attempts against Trump.

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WOW. AMAZING WORK. SPOT ON

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